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B’nai Mitzvah Information

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On this page you will find all the information you will need about becoming a bar or bat mitzvah at Beth Haverim Shir Shalom. Please scroll down to read all the topics and find links to all the forms you need. If you have any questions, please contact the office.

 

Oneg Hosting

Hosting an Oneg Shabbat for a bar or bat mitzvah can seem like an overwhelming experience in addition to all the other responsibilities you have.  It can be very simple if you have the information at your fingertips.

The synagogue, for a fee of $200.00, will provide the basic Friday night Oneg Shabbat as well as the basic Saturday morning Kiddush items (challah, kosher wine, and grape juice). The Oneg Shabbat will include various cookies, cakes, danishes, and an option of a having a cake, large cookie cake, or large brownie cake marking the occasion with the name of the bar or bat mitzvah child on it.  The cake can be ordered according to your choice.

The synagogue will also provide the challah, kosher wine, grape juice, wine cups, tablecloths, soda, coffee, tea, sugar, milk, doilies, trays, napkins, cups, pitchers, spoons, stirrers, and sweeteners, which are all available in our kitchen.  If you have any special requests, please notify the office at 201-512-1983.  Your Oneg will be set up for you.  All you have to do is walk in and enjoy the service!

Our office will call to discuss with you the number of guests you may be having at your Oneg and basic Kiddush at least 30 days prior your bat/bat mitzvah date.  Additional arrangements, such as Shabbat dinner, Saturday morning pre-service breakfast, extended Kiddush or full service bar/bat mitzvah reception, must be made between the family and a member of the Beth Haverim Shir Shalom panel of caterers.  The office, however, must be notified of your plans prior to signing a catering contract.  Room reservations are made on a first-come, first-served basis and must be reserved prior to finalizing plans with the caterer. **Only caterers on the panel can be used for your events. Please call the temple office if you are in need of kosher/glatt kosher catering.

 

Additional Options

(The following refer to only items not included in your $200.00 basic Oneg fee, should you wish to do more than the basic Saturday morning Kiddush.)

Families can choose to have a Shabbat dinner, pre-Saturday morning service breakfast, extended Kiddush, or a full service bar/bat mitzvah party in our social hall.  The social hall, however, must be reserved through the office.  We suggest these reservations be made as soon as you decide on a venue for your event.  This will prevent any conflicts since numbers necessitate having more double Bar/Bat Mitzvah services in the future.  Reservations are on a first-to-deposit basis.  There is a contract for the room reservation that the office will give you.  The cost of using the room for the above is listed below.  The rental fees include clean-up by our maintenance contractor.  Additionally, a security deposit of $250.00 is required for all catered events.

Pre-Shabbat Dinner – $125.00

Pre-Saturday Morning Breakfast – $125.00

Extended Kiddush – $250.00

Sit-Down Luncheon – $500.00

Bar/Bat Mitzvah Party – $500.00

**Please note if you reserve our social hall for an Extended Kiddush/Luncheon or Bar/Bat Mitzvah Party and you decide to also reserve the room for a Shabbat Dinner or Saturday Morning Pre-Service Breakfast, the room fee for either of those two would then become $75.00.**

There is no food or drink permitted in the sanctuary

 

Beth Haverim Shir Shalom’s Panel of Caterers

A five (5) member panel of caterers has been selected.  These caterers provide a variety of services at a range that will allow you to have the type of event that you desire.  All of the caterers are knowledgeable about our kashrut rules. Please be aware that the fees and/or per person charge are negotiated between you and the caterer.

Kashrut Rules: The following resolution was adopted by the synagogue Board and applies to all catering inside and on the synagogue grounds as of July 1, 2000:

“It shall be the policy of Beth Haverim Shir Shalom that all food served on synagogue grounds and premises shall be in accordance with biblical principles of kashrut.  This means that no prohibited foods may be served, and that milk and meat will not be served at the same meal.”

Below is the listing of the five (5) member panel:

Buono Bagels — contact Fred Greenberg (201-825-2500)

Ramsey Gourmet (Bagel Boys) — contact Roberta Slow (201-825-4141)

The Market Basket — contact Jackie Trowbridge (201-891-2000)

Rosebud Caterers — contact  Stuart Appelbaum  (845-268-9673)

Encore Catering — contact Karen Epstein (973-515-8000)

Flowers/Food Baskets

Floral arrangements or bimah baskets for the synagogue should be ordered and delivered by Friday morning.  One arrangement is placed in front of the rabbi’s lectern and a second one can be placed in front of the cantor’s lectern.  As an alternative to flowers, the synagogue will put together a variety of different baskets to place on the bimah on your special day instead of a flower arrangement.  The contents of the baskets will be donated to the Center for Food Action in Mahwah or the Ramapo-Bergen Animal Refuge in Oakland .

Basket Sizes and Costs

Large bimah basket: $125.00

Table-top basket: $18.00 (Can be used as centerpieces for your luncheon or party)

 

Video Services

Beth Haverim Shir Shalom is proud to announce that we have available to our b’nai mitzvah families the option of having their child’s bar/bat mitzvah service videotaped (DVD) on their big day.

We have three cameras permanently installed that will capture the very essence of this important occasion remotely.  Having these cameras installed enable us to eliminate the presence of the actual equipment and lights that have often been intrusive to the rabbi and cantor during the service. The company we have chosen to work with has been in business for many years and has come to us with a great many recommendations.

Please note that although this service is completely optional and is your choice, you may only use our video service as opposed to hiring your own company to record the service in our sanctuary on that day.

Videotaping Fees:

$360.00/1 DVD (standard package)

$460.00/4 DVDs (grandparents’ package)

$50.00/1 extra DVD recording

We hope that the video of your child’s service will be a treasured memory for many years to come.

 

In Closing

We hope this handbook answers the most relevant questions regarding the Oneg Shabbat prior to and the catering options on the day of your child’s bar/bat mitzvah.  We wish you and your family a hearty Mazel Tov at this wonderful time.

 

Forms and other Resources

Download the “Guide to becoming a Bar or Bat Mitzvah” handbook

Download the “Hosting a Bar or Bat Mitzvah” guidelines

Download Temple Topics Picture and Info form

Download printable directions that you can use for your invitations. There can be printed on a color or black and white printer. They should be cut in half, and then folded if you like.

Torah Blessings: If you are to have the honor of chanting or saying the blessings before and after the Torah reading, you can find a transliteration (as well as the Hebrew) by clicking here: Torah Blessings

Click to listen to the blessings before and after the reading of the Torah.

For the Shabbat candle lighting pages from the prayer book, including the prayer and transliteration, click here.

Honors Sheet for SINGLE or DOUBLE FAMILY #1 or DOUBLE FAMILY #2 or SIBLINGS - form to be filled out and printed or filled out, saved as a Word file, and emailed to [email protected]

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Service Times & Directions

Weekend Masses in English

Saturday Morning: 8:00 am

Saturday Vigil: 4:30 pm

Sunday: 7:30 am, 9:00 am, 10:45 am,
12:30 pm, 5:30 pm

Weekend Masses In Español

Saturday Vigil: 6:15pm

Sunday: 9:00am, 7:15pm

Weekday Morning Masses

Monday, Tuesday, Thursday & Friday: 8:30 am

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